10 Things Emotionally Mature Women Do in November, According to Psychologists Beth Ann MayerNovember 2, 2025 at 12:10 AM 0 Holiday commercials start in October—August even—and you may have barely wiggled out of your Halloween costume when Mariah Carey melts on November 1. The early kickoff to the holiday season can illicit groans, especially if all you want for Christmas is to avoid that earworm from living rentfree in your head.However, emotionally mature women don't hate the (music) players or the holiday game.
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Beth Ann MayerNovember 2, 2025 at 12:10 AM
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Holiday commercials start in October—August even—and you may have barely wiggled out of your Halloween costume when Mariah Carey melts on November 1. The early kick-off to the holiday season can illicit groans, especially if all you want for Christmas is to avoid that earworm from living rent-free in your head.However, emotionally mature women don't hate the (music) players or the holiday game. Instead, they know how to do the holidays right, and November is a key part of these women's playbooks."November is a month that naturally invites reflection, gratitude and relational awareness," explains Dr. Holly Schiff, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist. "As the holidays approach, emotionally mature women have to balance increased social and family expectations with mindfulness and boundaries. They use the time to prioritize what truly matters, rather than getting swept up in seasonal pressure or comparison."In other words, 'tis the season for these self- and socially-aware ladies to shine. Want to join their calm, so-cool and collected party? Take notes. These are the 10 things emotionally mature women do differently in November. Scroll on for their secrets.Related: 12 Things Emotionally Intelligent Women Do That the Average Person Avoids, Psychologists Say
10 Things Emotionally Mature Women Do Differently in November, According to Psychologists
1. They make gratitude personal
Social media can feel like an endless scroll of "resume updates" around Thanksgiving, as people post what they're grateful for or how well their years have gone. That's great for them, but emotionally mature women don't need to treat gratitude like SportsCenter's Top 10."They practice gratitude in private, not just in posts or holiday speeches," shares Dr. Sanam Hafeez, Psy.D., a neuropsychologist and director of Comprehend the Mind. "Writing down small moments of appreciation or telling someone directly means more to them than performing it for show. It keeps them grounded when the month feels rushed or emotional. Gratitude, to them, is a habit that shapes how they see the world."Related: 60 Bible Verses About Gratitude
2. They stay positive amid imperfection
Emotionally mature women don't get bent out of shape when their plans don't unfold like a Norman Rockwell painting."They can find beauty in small, imperfect gatherings, in burnt pies or in the messy parts of family life," Dr. Hafeez says. "They know joy doesn't depend on everything going right." Related: 16 Things People With a Really Positive Outlook on Life Often Say, According to a Psychologist
3. They give thanks without ignoring hard emotions
"Toxic positivity" can seep into holiday celebrations, especially Thanksgiving, when gratitude is baked into the entire affair. However, let's be real: Not everything has gone swimmingly this year. Emotionally mature women know two things can be true—and not just that pumpkin and apple pie are both delicious and necessary."Rather than using gratitude as a gloss over stress, emotionally mature women practice 'both/and thinking,'" explains Dr. Brittany McGeehan, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist. "They can appreciate what's good while still acknowledging what's painful, which allows for more authentic connection around the table. They're also okay with other people being uncomfortable with them doing this 'both/and thinking.'"
4. They set healthy boundaries early
Emotionally mature women don't wait for Mariah to do her thing to start laying the foundation for boundaries. "They are aware of the emotional demands of the holiday season and decide ahead of time what they can realistically give when it comes to their time, energy and presence," Dr. Schiff says.Related: 11 Boundaries Every Woman Should Set by 40, According to Therapists
5. They consider their needs too
It's time to throw out the idea that it's "better to give than to receive," at least when it comes to our time and energy. Emotionally mature women have already unsubscribed. "They also balance giving with receiving," Dr. Schiff shares. "They make sure they rest, delegate and accept help when offered so they don't become emotionally depleted."Emotionally mature women practice healthy boundaries year-round. However, one psychologist shares that this skill comes in handy in the later "ber" months."Taking care of your needs first is... especially important at this time of year when there are increased demands due to approaching holidays,"Dr. Michele Goldman, PhD—a psychologist and Hope for Depression Research Foundation media advisor—shares.Related: These 7 'Nice Girl' Behaviors Could Actually Be Hurting You, According to Psychologists
6. They prioritize genuine connection
In November, emotionally mature women know that "fluff" is best left to an early snowfall or Build-a-Bear workshop—not their schedules. Instead, women with high emotional intelligence are super intentional about their time in November, opting to fill their cups and calendars for people who love them, flaws and all."They're surrounding themselves with friends who are okay with showing up with a lawn chair and just enjoying one another's company," Dr. McGeehan explains. "This helps them enjoy deeper, calmer relationships during a season when many people default to people-pleasing."
7. They handle money and gifting with realism
Holiday shopping can ramp up in November, especially on Black Friday and Cyber Monday. Emotionally mature women don't shop until their bank account drops to the red, though."While others may overspend to prove love or generosity, emotionally mature women keep gifts thoughtful and within their means," Dr. Hafeez reports. "They understand that presence and effort carry more meaning than price tags. It's a quiet confidence that comes from knowing what actually matters."
8. They exude inner peace
Who needs a food fight on Thanksgiving when you can have a family one? You may prefer the latter. So would emotionally mature women. However, if Uncle Joey serves up something heated, emotionally mature women don't get hot. Instead, they stay warm. "When a tense topic comes up, they steer the conversation gently or choose silence instead of snapping back," Dr. Hafeez explains. "They've learned that peace isn't passive, it's a choice that protects everyone's comfort."Related: 100 Spiritual Quotes To Restore Inner Peace Within Your Mind, Body and Soul
9. They focus on personal development
Emotionally mature women take stock in November amid all the talk of gratitude."They use November as a time to use reflection as renewal," Dr. Schiff says. "They don't see it as the prelude to holiday chaos. It is a chance to check in with, acknowledge the past and set intentions for the future."Dr. Goldman echoed similar sentiments, adding that emotionally mature women avoid navel-gazing around the holidays."People who are less emotionally mature might need external validation, might not be comfortable in sitting with their successes or feel grateful for those personal accomplishments," she explains.
10. They give themselves a heaping helping of grace
No one has it all together—not even emotionally mature women. What sets them apart, especially in November, is that they don't beat themselves up over setbacks."As the year winds down, emotionally mature women review their choices with curiosity instead of self-blame," Dr. McGeehan says. "This self-reflective stance fuels growth instead of guilt, helping them enter the new year grounded and intentional. They know they are always doing the best that they can."And it sets the foundation for them to rinse, wash and repeat in December, January, next November and beyond.Related: 10 Things Women Over 50 Should Never Apologize For
The #1 Thing Emotionally Mature Women Don't Do in November
"They don't ignore their own needs," Dr. Hafeez reveals. "Emotionally mature women know that November can pull everyone in a dozen directions, so they make time to rest and recharge."Indeed, emotionally mature women have a healthy relationship with productivity."They don't equate busyness with worth," Dr. McGeehan says. "Many people use the holiday rush to avoid discomfort or prove productivity, but emotionally mature women resist that reflex. They understand that rest is a form of discipline that, by doing less often, allows for feeling more."Up Next:
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Dr. Holly Schiff, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist.
Dr. Sanam Hafeez, Psy.D., is a neuropsychologist and director of Comprehend the Mind.
Dr. Brittany McGeehan, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist.
Dr. Michele Goldman, Ph.D., is a psychologist and Hope for Depression Research Foundation media advisor.
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